Signs Abusive Relationship
There are many signs of abuse in a relationship. If you are uncertain if you are in an abusive relationship, you can use the general guideline below for help.
1: Is your partner jealous?
A jealous partner is a controlling partner. While some jealousy is healthy, your partner should not try to control your friends, your time, and your activities. A jealous partner will often try to have you wear unflattering clothes, or try to stop you from interacting with others to keep you all to themselves.
2: Have you been told you are worthless?
Verbal abuse is as damaging as physical abuse. If your partner has told you that you are worthless, or otherwise degrades you on a daily basis, you may be the victim of verbal abuse. Partners do fight, and say things that they do not mean. However, if you hear this on a daily basis, that is a warning sign that you may be in an abusive relationship.
3: Does your partner fly into rages?
Rage is a dangerous state. If your partner becomes violent whenever he or she is angry, you should be wary. If your partner strikes you, your children or your pets on a frequent basis, this is physical abuse.
4: Do you feel uncomfortable in your relationship?
Being uncomfortable in a relationship is often an internal clue that something is not right. If you feel uncomfortable, find out why.
5: Does your partner abuse drugs or alcohol?
Alcohol and drug use alter the personality and bring out tendancies that are typically hidden when sober. As such, if your partner drinks or uses drugs, you may be at risk of abuse. While not every person is affected by drugs and alcohol in this manner, it is your responsibility to protect yourself and find out if this is the case before you are hurt.
6: Have your friends told you that you are in a bad relationship?
If your friends are telling you that you are in a bad relationship, there is probably a reason for it. While you may think everything is perfect, your friends are often able to see things more clearly than you. Why? They are not blinded by their sentimental emotions for your partner. You are. If your friends tell you something is wrong, step back and listen to them. Sometimes this can help you get out of an abusive relationship before you are significantly hurt.
While there are many signs in an abusive relationship, it is your responsibility to seek help. Don't be afraid. There are many people and organizations willing to assist you, as well as reading materials that can give you advice.